From The LP Questionnaire - Kumail Nanjiani
| LP: | Which evil villain would make the best President? |
| Kumail: | I would love to see Skeletor in the White House, so we can have the first gay president. |
March 12, 2012
March 4, 2012
Santorum backs nullifying existing gay marriages
There are 18,000 married gay and lesbian couples in California and at least 131,000 nationwide according to the 2010 census, conducted before New York state legalized same-sex marriage in July.
Rick Santorum says he’ll try to unmarry all of them if he’s elected president.
Does someone need to remind Santorum that he’s running for President, and not Mullah In Chief for the American Taliban?
March 1, 2012
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The following day, I attended a workshop about preventing gender violence, facilitated by Katz. There, he posed a question to all of the men in the room: “Men, what things do you do to protect yourself from being raped or sexually assaulted?”
Not one man, including myself, could quickly answer the question. Finally, one man raised his hand and said, “Nothing.” Then Katz asked the women, “What things do you do to protect yourself from being raped or sexually assaulted?” Nearly all of the women in the room raised their hand. One by one, each woman testified:
“I don’t make eye contact with men when I walk down the street,” said one.
“I don’t put my drink down at parties,” said another.
“I use the buddy system when I go to parties.”
“I cross the street when I see a group of guys walking in my direction.”
“I use my keys as a potential weapon.”
The women went on for several minutes, until their side of the blackboard was completely filled with responses. The men’s side of the blackboard was blank. I was stunned. I had never heard a group of women say these things before. I thought about all of the women in my life — including my mother, sister and girlfriend — and realized that I had a lot to learn about gender.
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March 1, 2012
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Oh Hells Nah Podcast: 004 - Food
Check out our new episode about food! Michael and I debate about things as petty as Flamin’ Hot Cheetos.
Show Notes:
More information about antibiotics in US livestock and some of the negative effects that can have.
And of course, Hungry Eyes. Not that we enjoyed Dirty Dancing or anything…
February 28, 2012
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Oh Hells Nah Podcast: 004 - Food
Check out our new episode about food! Michael and I debate about things as petty as Flamin’ Hot Cheetos.
February 24, 2012
Yeah, way to stick it to what’s left of the once mighty Indian nation, bro!
OH THE HUMANITY!
February 24, 2012
Not everybody should get national holidays off.
What turds.
February 20, 2012
February 17, 2012
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Oh Hells Nah Podcast: 003 - Feminism
Show notes:
The Daily Show that we referenced was aired on Feb. 14, 2012 and the the Person that made the “Too much rape” comment was Liz Trotta. She has been admonished for her comments.
More on the contraception bruhaha; a gaffe from Foster Friess, the guy bankrolling Santorum’s super PAC (sounds like a supervillain, doesn’t he?): Bayer, advanced medicine for contraception?
February 14, 2012
Cross Blog from Oh hells nah: Friends!
It looks like OHN has finally given into my bribery and/or threats and will allow me to post some more of my ramblings. Like OHN, I am a lover of writing, politics, and food (growing it anyway). Hopefully you all keep enjoying OHN’s always entertaining views and poetry, and I just hope to be able to entertain you with my thoughts, which come from a slightly different perspective. Please feel free to tell me how I am doing in the comments section!
-Michael
In this post, referenced on the “Friendship” episode of the OHN podcast, Michael reveals his friendship rules and talks about why some people don’t like being known as acquaintances.
The other day, I saw something pretty amusing. Someone that knows me had an exchange on Facebook with another person saying that I was their “good friend” and that an actual good friend of mine was a “sometime collaborator”. I found this to be weird as well, since if this person was a “good” friend, they would likely know that the alleged “collaborator” is indeed my friend, since I am always talking my friends up. Seeing this made me think about how people define the word “friend”, and how you know if someone is in the “friend city” or the “acquaintance boondocks”, so to speak.
I suppose I have pretty high standards for friendship, if I am judging by others’ friendships that I have observed. That or I am so curmudgeonly that only a small amount of people would even want to loosely associate with me, let alone be friends 1 . That being said, I have three strict rules2 for friendship with me after the jump:
1.) Keep your word- this seems pretty easy to understand, but the number of people that have disappointed or annoyed me by saying they would do something or meet with me and then either consistently make excuses or just “forget” is pretty high. If you don’t want to do something, just say so. I understand that things come up, but if it happens more than 3 times in a row, you will be demoted to acquaintance status. I can take it if you don’t want to hang out, but don’t lie.
2.) Have a sense of humor- I know that I have an odd 3 sense of humor, but I actually appreciate quite a broad spectrum of humor. In fact, I seek out humor in everything, as there are so many absurdities in this world. I am not saying that someone needs to be Delerious-era Eddie Murphy funny or anything, but I think that they should be able to take a joke, or at least not always take everything super-seriously. There are few things worse in my book than a person who only looks at things through black and white lenses. You know what kind of people were like that? Stalin and Mao 4 . Basically, it comes down to that old saying: “If they can’t take a joke, fuck ‘em”.
3.) Be open minded- This one may be kind of a difficult to demand of someone, and it kind of goes with rule 2, but people that insist on imposing their worldview on others or does not try to understand that there may be people out there that do and say things that you do not agree with really piss me off. You might say, “Oh, isn’t that close minded of you, in that you do not accept the close-mindedness of others?” And to that, I would say, “Touche sir or madam; you have caught me in a paradox”. It still stands that if you’re constantly criticizing decisions and/or lifestyles of people that do not affect you, I don’t want to deal with you. Take your frumpy judgment elsewhere with the rest of the wet blankets.
Now, obviously, I am not going to just start burning bridges left and right, as I have said before: I learn something from every person I meet. Even if some jerk mugs me in an alley or something, I still will have learned a lesson (although the chance of me getting coffee with them is slim to none). Most of the people I know thankfully do not fit into the “mugger” class of people (in fact none that I know of do), but there are quite a few people that I had tried to befriend, only for them to break one or more of my rules. If I still felt that there was some sort of mutual gain in contacting them, I would keep a loose relationship with them, but they certainly were not an integral part of my life, even if I happened to see them on a regular basis. I know that may sound a little draconian, but really, would you want to be friends with someone that you expect to disappoint or judge you? I realized that I don’t want that kind of stress, so I trimmed the fat to get to a reasonable number of actual “friends”.
Another weird thing about this whole acquaintance phenomena is that it can be seen as harsh or confusing to describe someone as an acquaintance of yours. I find that usually people will just say that someone is their friend, even if they aren’t really someone that they would get a beer with. I am not sure what it is about the word “acquaintance”, but people do not seem to respond well to being described as such. The few times I have done so publicly apparently led to hurt feelings and angry stares. If someone described me as such, and it was accurate, I wouldn’t mind, but I suppose people like to think of themselves as friendly, and when that is challenged, it tends not to sit well with them.
Maybe the problem is with me and how I enjoy labeling, analyzing, and defining things. If someone were to look at my groupings on the social media sites I use, there would probably be some hurt feelings, since I do have a group labeled “acquaintances” (among other, less flattering things), and that group happens to be by far the largest. I mean, literally, how could someone have over 800 friends? that is ridiculous, and if anyone tells you differently, they’re lying. It just isn’t possible.
There is a cognitive/anthropological theory known as Dunbar’s number that asserts the maximum number of meaningful/stable social relationships one person could have is somewhere between 100 and 230. This is likely due to human memory limitations; we simply are not able to build lasting relationships with 1000 people, since we would probably forget those little details and memories that constitute the threads of a “relationship”. If you are a fairly social person like me, you don’t have the space to befriend everyone you meet. That goes double if you actually hold people to standards and stick by them. Then there are cases where you just don’t mesh with someone, just by accident of personalities clashing.
This is basically the case with the person I described in the first paragraph. I do not find anything wrong with them, I just don’t share enough in common with them for me to consider them a “good friend”. I respect them, wish them well, and would even be happy to assist them if they ever needed anything from me, but I don’t really want to hang out with them or their friends, as I have nothing to say to their friends that I have met (they are also friends with people that I know that have broken my rules). It may sound dickish of me to say this, but I realized that I will not be able to befriend everyone I meet, and I am fine with that. That does not mean that I am not pleased to make new acquaintances.
Lessons Learned: It is possible to make friends with people you have never met; People throw the F (friend) word around like it doesn’t mean anything anymore; I have collaborators…that sounds kind of fancy; A note to anyone that knows me and reads this: I have no apologies about my stance on any of these if they apply to you, but hopefully we know where we stand.
1. This may also be true
2. You know, besides personality compatibility…
3. Dirty
4. They only smiled when hearing about other people suffering (“making sacrifices”) for the fatherland as far as I can tell.
In this post, referenced on the “Friendship” episode of the OHN podcast, Michael reveals his friendship rules and talks about why some people don’t like being known as acquaintances.
Pleased to make your…
The other day, I saw something pretty amusing. Someone that knows me had an exchange on Facebook with another person saying that I was their “good friend” and that an actual good friend of mine was a “sometime collaborator”. I found this to be weird as well, since if this person was a “good” friend, they would likely know that the alleged “collaborator” is indeed my friend, since I am always talking my friends up. Seeing this made me think about how people define the word “friend”, and how you know if someone is in the “friend city” or the “acquaintance boondocks”, so to speak.
I suppose I have pretty high standards for friendship, if I am judging by others’ friendships that I have observed. That or I am so curmudgeonly that only a small amount of people would even want to loosely associate with me, let alone be friends 1 . That being said, I have three strict rules2 for friendship with me after the jump:
1.) Keep your word- this seems pretty easy to understand, but the number of people that have disappointed or annoyed me by saying they would do something or meet with me and then either consistently make excuses or just “forget” is pretty high. If you don’t want to do something, just say so. I understand that things come up, but if it happens more than 3 times in a row, you will be demoted to acquaintance status. I can take it if you don’t want to hang out, but don’t lie.
2.) Have a sense of humor- I know that I have an odd 3 sense of humor, but I actually appreciate quite a broad spectrum of humor. In fact, I seek out humor in everything, as there are so many absurdities in this world. I am not saying that someone needs to be Delerious-era Eddie Murphy funny or anything, but I think that they should be able to take a joke, or at least not always take everything super-seriously. There are few things worse in my book than a person who only looks at things through black and white lenses. You know what kind of people were like that? Stalin and Mao 4 . Basically, it comes down to that old saying: “If they can’t take a joke, fuck ‘em”.
3.) Be open minded- This one may be kind of a difficult to demand of someone, and it kind of goes with rule 2, but people that insist on imposing their worldview on others or does not try to understand that there may be people out there that do and say things that you do not agree with really piss me off. You might say, “Oh, isn’t that close minded of you, in that you do not accept the close-mindedness of others?” And to that, I would say, “Touche sir or madam; you have caught me in a paradox”. It still stands that if you’re constantly criticizing decisions and/or lifestyles of people that do not affect you, I don’t want to deal with you. Take your frumpy judgment elsewhere with the rest of the wet blankets.
Now, obviously, I am not going to just start burning bridges left and right, as I have said before: I learn something from every person I meet. Even if some jerk mugs me in an alley or something, I still will have learned a lesson (although the chance of me getting coffee with them is slim to none). Most of the people I know thankfully do not fit into the “mugger” class of people (in fact none that I know of do), but there are quite a few people that I had tried to befriend, only for them to break one or more of my rules. If I still felt that there was some sort of mutual gain in contacting them, I would keep a loose relationship with them, but they certainly were not an integral part of my life, even if I happened to see them on a regular basis. I know that may sound a little draconian, but really, would you want to be friends with someone that you expect to disappoint or judge you? I realized that I don’t want that kind of stress, so I trimmed the fat to get to a reasonable number of actual “friends”.
Another weird thing about this whole acquaintance phenomena is that it can be seen as harsh or confusing to describe someone as an acquaintance of yours. I find that usually people will just say that someone is their friend, even if they aren’t really someone that they would get a beer with. I am not sure what it is about the word “acquaintance”, but people do not seem to respond well to being described as such. The few times I have done so publicly apparently led to hurt feelings and angry stares. If someone described me as such, and it was accurate, I wouldn’t mind, but I suppose people like to think of themselves as friendly, and when that is challenged, it tends not to sit well with them.
Maybe the problem is with me and how I enjoy labeling, analyzing, and defining things. If someone were to look at my groupings on the social media sites I use, there would probably be some hurt feelings, since I do have a group labeled “acquaintances” (among other, less flattering things), and that group happens to be by far the largest. I mean, literally, how could someone have over 800 friends? that is ridiculous, and if anyone tells you differently, they’re lying. It just isn’t possible.
There is a cognitive/anthropological theory known as Dunbar’s number that asserts the maximum number of meaningful/stable social relationships one person could have is somewhere between 100 and 230. This is likely due to human memory limitations; we simply are not able to build lasting relationships with 1000 people, since we would probably forget those little details and memories that constitute the threads of a “relationship”. If you are a fairly social person like me, you don’t have the space to befriend everyone you meet. That goes double if you actually hold people to standards and stick by them. Then there are cases where you just don’t mesh with someone, just by accident of personalities clashing.
This is basically the case with the person I described in the first paragraph. I do not find anything wrong with them, I just don’t share enough in common with them for me to consider them a “good friend”. I respect them, wish them well, and would even be happy to assist them if they ever needed anything from me, but I don’t really want to hang out with them or their friends, as I have nothing to say to their friends that I have met (they are also friends with people that I know that have broken my rules). It may sound dickish of me to say this, but I realized that I will not be able to befriend everyone I meet, and I am fine with that. That does not mean that I am not pleased to make new acquaintances.
Lessons Learned: It is possible to make friends with people you have never met; People throw the F (friend) word around like it doesn’t mean anything anymore; I have collaborators…that sounds kind of fancy; A note to anyone that knows me and reads this: I have no apologies about my stance on any of these if they apply to you, but hopefully we know where we stand.
1. This may also be true
2. You know, besides personality compatibility…
3. Dirty
4. They only smiled when hearing about other people suffering (“making sacrifices”) for the fatherland as far as I can tell.
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From The LP Questionnaire - Kumail NanjianiLP: Which evil villain would make the best President?Kumail: I would love to see Skeletor in the White House, so we can have the first gay president.
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unused Lisa Miller illustration, late 2006.
she was originally going to be on the cover of Scott Pilgrim Vol 4 but I changed my mind. This...
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this is like an alternate universe Lisa Miller sketch from this other comic concept that i haven’t written or drawn
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Just wrapped Day 1 of shooting for the ONE CHILD music video. Another full day tomorrow!
